I am so glad that I went into Thanksgiving with a neutral mindset. We went to my brother's home and if I could have had it my way, would have skipped it. But my oldest wanted to go and I bit the bullet and decided to make the best of it. My family is not particularly close, something that I struggle with. And over the past months, the estrangement has been quite painful, as I've had to deal with the divorce and loss of my home. The last I spoke with my sister was in April.
Going in with a neutral frame of mind helped in that I just accepted what was going on in the here and now. I forgot the hurt and resentment I've felt and dropped the expectations about how I think a family should act. I just tried to be and all in all it was a good experience. My sister and I spoke and I hope the rift that has been between us has lifted. The entire family told me that they missed GF not being there. In fact, my brother said it was not the same without him. All were supportive about the move/marriage. My sister said good men are hard to come by and GF is a good man. We ended up calling GF and wishing him a Happy Thanksgiving. Poor GF said nothing much was open except Walmart. So he had a Hungry Man TV Dinner (chicken). He told my brother that he hopes this will be the last Thanksgiving he will have to spend alone.
Today I survived working Black Friday from 8:00 - 4:00. I gave my notice and said I am moving. So I suppose it is official to some extent.
i've been out of it. i missed where you had made your decision to move and get married. i'm sorry to be down in my hole so let me offer a belated congratulations. i hope you and your sons will find a better, safer, easier life filled with love and laughter. you deserve only the best.
ReplyDeleteI am happy to hear that your family supports your decision and thinks so highly of GF. I know that there will be challenges ahead but I am sure you will face them with a partner that will be supportive and caring.
ReplyDeleteIt was good you were able to just "be" in the moment at your brother's and I hope that everything will now become healed in your relationship with your sister.
~Debra
I am so glad your family loves you enough to want to see you happy. I also feel the fewer expectations we have of EVERYONE, the saner we will be.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your move and well done for taking the first step towards the next chapter in your life (handing in your notice). This is so tiring, and I am in awe of you for setting the wheels in motion <3
ReplyDeleteEveryone's well wishes are greatly appreciated!
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