Sunday, May 27, 2012

What Really Matters

"The _________ Scholarship is awarded to three students. The students selected for this award have exhibited the following traits; integrity, loyalty to friends, responsibility, industriousness, competitive involvement in school activities, sincerity and honesty. This year's recipients will receive a scholarship which will be paid to the university of their choice. This year's recipients are:
1. __________
2. __________
3. My younger son!"

I was surprised at the Senior Honors Assembly when my son received this award. I had attended the function, thinking he was going to receive a plaque for community involvement. It turns out that will be sent to him. And as it turns out, this award is far, far better because it involves a substantial monetary amount that will alleviate my freaking out over the cost of college textbooks for both Freshman year semesters and then some!

In a way, this award is a fitting symbol of our journey up to this point. It really signifies what has been most important to me in raising my sons on my own. Not that these traits wouldn't have been important had my husband remained alive. It is that since his death, I have realized how much more of value these traits are.

When I related these traits to someone who knows my son, he nodded and agreed that they are an accurate description of him.


To know that my son, as well as my eldest, have learned and incorporated these traits into their beliefs and actions makes me truly proud. Because these are traits that I have tried to live my life by. Widowhood has been a great challenge for me. I joke that I have not been a particularly successful widow. But joking aside, to reach this point with the knowledge that despite all the hardships and difficulties, there is some success, brings a measure of comfort.


  1. Fantastic!! Congratulations to your son on winning such a wonderful award and congratulations to you for getting him there! He didn't leave the womb all grown and ready for university :) - you and his late Dad contributed enormously to shaping this wonderful young man's life - you should be very proud.

  2. Congratulations to your son and to you, mom, for putting aside your own desires for awhile to get this son and your other son to where they are today. You have done well in spite of the hardships. BE PROUD, you deserve it! Hoping that new and exciting things will be happening for you too!

  3. Amazing new, so happy for you and your kids.

  4. That's so fantastic! Congratulations to him and to you.

  5. Congratulations! These are not the traits of a coddled kid; these are the traits of a kind person who happens to be young. How nice that these good qualities trigger a monetary award in this day and age. I'd like to add that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

  6. oh wowowowowowowow


    How proud you must be xxx

  7. Thank you all for your kind words of acknowledgment in regard to my youngest son. He does well deserve it!