Tomorrow morning is the big day - the long awaited and dreaded divorce mediation meeting. My mood is more matter-of-fact than anything else. Having lost a spouse to death, I know only too well the importance of love, commitment and marriage. I am tremendously sad that my husband did not want to make any effort at working this relationship out. What a waste of so much! But at the same time I realize that to fight for something the other person does not want is fruitless. At this point, if he truly wants a divorce I want him to have what he wants. I hope it brings him peace. I hope for myself closure. I wish for both of us future happiness. It is my sincere intent to only bring loving-kindness into the mediation arena; to be honest, fair and understanding. I have a feeling Husband #2 will not be in the same mind frame. But no matter. I hope also to carry myself with dignity and strength. And to somehow generate love toward myself and even my husband. I am wishing myself luck!
Today I am grateful:
1. For love which is stronger than everything and will prevail even in the darkest of moments.
2. For the long journey I have survived the past seven months.
3. For all the growth and insight this situation has bestowed on me.
Good for you! You will bring more to your healing and long-term happiness by taking the high road. We cannot control the way other people will act or respond. We control only ourselves. Remind yourself that you have already survived the worst. You lost your beloved husband. You can survive this too.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind, inspirational words. I am finding that when we can think outside ourselves (our needs, wants) and toward the other person that it helps. Although that seems backwards!
ReplyDeleteDivorce mediation is always helpful at the time of a thought of getting divorce. The blog which you have shared is a very inspirational one and by keeping your dignity and respect you have shown how strong you are.
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