tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post8747110404671152308..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: ChangeWidow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-62371149322737192632012-07-23T13:15:16.101-07:002012-07-23T13:15:16.101-07:00Dear Ladies - It is always good to hear from both ...Dear Ladies - It is always good to hear from both of you. What can I say? I wish we didn't have to live with some of the challenges we share. Judy, you are so right about it being hard to figure out where to go with the years we have left. And Flo, you make an interesting point about people telling us we are where we are supposed to be because it takes the burden off of them. <br /><br />Thank you both for reading and commenting.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-10588316468616530132012-07-20T13:31:53.713-07:002012-07-20T13:31:53.713-07:00I relate. I get discouraged that life will challe...I relate. I get discouraged that life will challenge me day after day without end, and be uphills without the downhills. But I think some of this perspective is my resistance to change and growth. Much of what I 'have to do' or ask myself to do runs counter to my personality, and takes me way out of my comfort zone. I can only take so much disorientation!<br /><br />I often tell myself I'm right where I ought to be, because by accepting my present circumstance I allow God's Grace and Love to enter. <br /> <br />Now, if anybody told me "You're right where you ought to be" I'd smack them. Because when someone else says it to me I hear condemnation and abandonment, i.e. "You're supposed to be where you are - and because of this I don't need to help you out of it".GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-62895116307985387642012-07-16T07:20:59.213-07:002012-07-16T07:20:59.213-07:00No--we don't like change, but it seems that is...No--we don't like change, but it seems that is the one real consistancy in life. The hard part is trying to figure out how to go forward into the years that are left to us. I haven't figured it out as yet. I used to be so future oriented! Now, I am just going one day at a time and somedays, I don't know if I am even going to make it through that day. But--ever forward, because there certainly is no going back!Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.com