tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post5646189613526588536..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: Where is the Forest?Widow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-40585805541183333402017-06-19T15:24:44.198-07:002017-06-19T15:24:44.198-07:00I feel so alone since my husband passed away five ...I feel so alone since my husband passed away five years ago. I never appreciated all he did around here. Having to take care of a house, pool, car, and finances is exhausting. I have managed these things rather well, but, the emptiness is awful. I need my best friend to comfort me, make me laugh, plan with, and he is not here. I hate being alone.tuzzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02180122654906140027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-19622359483484726252012-05-09T21:47:26.361-07:002012-05-09T21:47:26.361-07:00Sandra - I really appreciate your comments. I'...Sandra - I really appreciate your comments. I've taken criticism in the past for being too honest, but I'm conveying what is and hope that by doing so, I can reach others out there struggling with various issues. Peace back to you as well and to everyone else out there!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-32863517786171220322012-05-06T22:26:39.666-07:002012-05-06T22:26:39.666-07:00It is refreshing to read someone who is willing to...It is refreshing to read someone who is willing to be honest about the fact that their life is not all "hats and horns," as my friend Kate would say. I'm tired of reading blogs with perfectly decorated houses, cute little kids, women who have husbands who support them while they are artists/weavers/potters/whatever...<br /><br />My heart goes out to you. My dad died 24 years ago at age 50, and my mom went through a LOT of readjustment. She also was only 50, with three children. She had to learn to do taxes on her own, like you, drive herself places alone (she could drive but preferred not to), make a new life for herself, take care of her home, and the list goes on. One thing that helped her was going to a "retreat" for widowed, divorced and separated people. She also joined a couple of "social clubs" to make new friends. <br /><br />As for me, I am married, but we are both out of work and have been for some time. I've been wondering "why me? why us?" but as you said, "If not me, who else?" It's hard to keep going, but I keep trying. If it were not for the kindness of friends, and some strangers, perhaps I would not be able to persist. <br /><br />I wish you peace. Hang in there...Sandra L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12996512145634439543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-89947574269422918152012-04-29T21:53:53.916-07:002012-04-29T21:53:53.916-07:00Thanks all for sharing your experiences and convey...Thanks all for sharing your experiences and conveying support! You all deserve the best!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-71664704979702795272012-04-27T08:29:40.311-07:002012-04-27T08:29:40.311-07:00Stumbled across your blog when I was having one of...Stumbled across your blog when I was having one of those "poor widow me" moments. It's been 12 years, and I too was 45 when my husband died of colon cancer. The worst part, STILL, is the doing everything on your own. It is hard work, and it seems so unfair. I know. Hang in there, though. I have found, that through it all, the heartbreak, the isolation, the grief, the just plain worn it... my LIFE has gotten better.... more meaningful and precious. I don't know you, but I am sending some great energy your way.Rebecca (Becky) Mahoneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13175195823235850675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-27574177551205099502012-04-26T13:37:06.367-07:002012-04-26T13:37:06.367-07:00Thank you for sharing...widohood is a lonely and t...Thank you for sharing...widohood is a lonely and tough voyage.<br />With my best wishes<br />MariaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-43812917343090671192012-04-22T04:14:03.746-07:002012-04-22T04:14:03.746-07:00Hiya. I think you're fantastic. I came across ...Hiya. I think you're fantastic. I came across your blog in my desperate efforts to see if anyone was experiencing anything similar to me. your blog is the only one I've found that I can relate to, not just life circumstances, but the way you write and express yourself... you're simply wonderful. DebDebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16483814947273054605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-86811388306752400802012-04-21T05:18:44.065-07:002012-04-21T05:18:44.065-07:00...and the one person we want to discuss all this ......and the one person we want to discuss all this with is not here! I am having hip surgery in a couple of weeks and I don't know I am going to get through it without Fred. I guess I just have to ride the wave and see where it drops me? I do not like being alone and no one around here understands. Oh well--what choice do we have? Onward--ever onward.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-13110070856283909832012-04-11T05:29:48.483-07:002012-04-11T05:29:48.483-07:00So sorry, its awful to feel so low...If felt that ...So sorry, its awful to feel so low...If felt that way for about two years after my husband died and I was left with two teenagers and 1 pre-teen. Then, I began feeling a little sronger - and even proud - that I could handle things on my own. It took me five years to feel like a confident person again. I have a sister who is an amazing support, but she is out of town - other than that, I have friends. (My parents died within a few years of my husband.) Do you reach out to anyone? Its hard...its really hard admitting you need support, and most of the time, its emotional support. Not everyone can give it, either. Some people are born with the 'compassion' gene - others are not and they can't help it! Its hurtful, I know, but we learn to deal with it...<br /><br />I'm sorry, I don't mean to lecture, I just thought I'd give you a little advice that helped me...Good luck:):)Nancynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-23709200810411314932012-04-11T04:59:55.283-07:002012-04-11T04:59:55.283-07:00I'm glad you shared, even though you don't...I'm glad you shared, even though you don't feel on top of ANYTHING right now. Although I'm no help with the nitty gritty of your life, I'm rooting for you. In a month and a half you will begin entering a 'new normal' and can kiss some of this good bye. Between relocating to more pleasant surroundings and being an empty nester you may feel lighter. But know that we're in there with you now, when hugs are needed most!GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.com