tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post5427776290781425524..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: Round and Round She GoesWidow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-84455946913384382602010-11-10T07:49:15.983-08:002010-11-10T07:49:15.983-08:00Beth - It is truly a relief for me to know that so...Beth - It is truly a relief for me to know that someone else shares what I feel too. I also feel positive knowing that I was unable to move because of having to care for my dying Mom and that staying here for the boys to finish high school was what was best for US. They were not easy decisions to make, partly the cost of even a marriage. But I have to believe that in the end, they'll count for the greater good.<br /><br />Pictures of knitting and crochet will pop up. <br /><br />I truly appreciate your comment about trying to make the best of difficult circumstances. I wish I heard that more often from the people closest to me... My Mom provided a lot of verbal support to me and it was a Godsend. The absolutely least I could do in return was be there with her in her final months/days. I know you too share similar feelings about your parents. It is as it should be, although people seem to forget how more difficult it is being an only parent parenting kids and parents at the same time!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-23581248296634342562010-11-09T17:48:48.339-08:002010-11-09T17:48:48.339-08:00I could have written some of the same feelings as ...I could have written some of the same feelings as you shared about not fitting in ~ different circumstances, maybe, but the same sense of "where do I belong." I, too, feel the urge to relocate, but it is not the right time -- my youngest still has 2 1/2 years of school left and I have elderly parents that moved here to help me out and now they need my help. One day, maybe. I am ready -- I think! I do believe, though, that you are going to find your place. You have made great advances and I see a strong, determined woman who has made the best of truly difficult circumstances.<br /><br />When you finish some of your knitting projects, please post pictures. Would love to see your work. It's great that you have a creative outlet that you are passionate about.<br /><br />Blessings :)BethinNChttp://www.bsk4blog.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-75049730881299063352010-11-09T05:30:11.049-08:002010-11-09T05:30:11.049-08:00Julie - It is nice to hear from you again. I didn...Julie - It is nice to hear from you again. I didn't know you are from Australia. I thought you were from England. It amazes me sometimes to think that a person so far away has had an impact on my life because you more than other readers have really sometimes challenged me to the depth of my soul! <br /><br />I crochet too, but just enjoy knitting more. I tried to crochet a turkey pattern I found on the internet last night for Thanksgiving but it did not turn out as I liked so I'm scrapping it. Crochet is probably more common here in the States.<br /><br />I don't want to think about the man/men/guyfriend/boyfriend issue today at all. But the key is what you said - emotionally, in the end, it is not worth it and we are worth more.<br /><br />CCK - I am also glad to hear from you again and appreciate the wisdom of your words. The beauty of nature is helping me heal and hold me together. That and some good books, strong tea and my knitting. And kindness from afar too!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-57434131838739444222010-11-09T03:08:50.728-08:002010-11-09T03:08:50.728-08:00I just know from lots of experience that it is not...I just know from lots of experience that it is not worth one second of your precious energy on a man not on the same page. No amount of hope, change on your part, or giving yourself away works. I am so sorry to read about the licensing issue in your job, but I think you are on the right path to retrain. It should be a worthwhile and easy path, given your experience.<br />Keep yourself in nature.....in all its forms it is a place of healing.MsGrayseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09904170938207154612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-36930709817180415762010-11-08T17:17:14.694-08:002010-11-08T17:17:14.694-08:00Hi
I haven't been around much, so I've had...Hi<br />I haven't been around much, so I've had a few of your entries to catch up on. You sound more settled.<br />I also have had trouble with guys who are not on the same page. I get close to them and then they move away, repeat ad nauseum. I have come to realise that that kind of relationship is not worth the emotional energy.<br />I love your talk about knitting, because I am a crochet queen. It is not a common craft now-days but I love it. I crocheted lots and lots of scarves this year, keeps my fingers busy while I'm watching tellie instead of feeding my face.<br />Anyway, loving your pictures of 'fall', in Australia it is spring, and we are looking forward to some warmth.<br />Love<br />JulieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com