tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post5055092092685895635..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: You Deserve A Break TodayWidow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-89563094685176113992010-07-12T08:50:59.088-07:002010-07-12T08:50:59.088-07:0070s Girl - He doesn't have much vacation becau...70s Girl - He doesn't have much vacation because it is a new job. I suggested that he rearrange the week for a better one (at least for me) in Aug. but he refuses to upset the ex-wife (which is a point of contention for me because I guess it is okay to do so with me but not her...).<br /><br />TNT - Reading that you cried reading the post made me cry. It is crazy that you have to say "only 8 more years" just like it is crazy for me to be so drained and tired I can no longer see straight. There should be some sort of help available to women like us with depleted resources and no assistance while we are raising the next generation of citizens for our country. I am becoming angry that there is no where for me to turn - even angrier that no one seems to care or listen, even those closest to me. I am sorry you missed out on an opportunity to get away. We all need that and maybe us widows even moreso than others. I just don't know anymore how I can recharge and regroup or where to go with this. I sure know that I will not be able to make it two more years when my boys will be in college and maybe living away. I have already reached my limit from the previous 8 years of parenting on my own.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-7897070346549920412010-07-12T08:21:24.248-07:002010-07-12T08:21:24.248-07:00This post made me cry.....this is me!!! I rarely ...This post made me cry.....this is me!!! I rarely get time off (I do get a night off every now and then when my father will watch, but never a weekend to myself). This past weekend some old college friends invited me to the beach for the weekend. I did not go because none of them were bringing their children and I could not leave my child for a whole weekend. I keep saying to myself that it is only for 8 more years.<br /><br />Also, I am with Anonymous...why isn't Sam taking the week off if his son is coming to visit? Isn't the point of the visit to spend time together?TNThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03085859183455871150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-51602999960400785712010-07-11T06:22:00.744-07:002010-07-11T06:22:00.744-07:00Your plans sound like just more of the same, excep...Your plans sound like just more of the same, except with someone else's child. I'm not clear why Sam is not taking the week off to be with his son, but anywho...Hopefully, you are sure there will be enough in it for you to make the time and energy sacrifice worthwhile. I sure hope so, you soooo deserve it!<br />Seventies GirlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-7638420977809840762010-07-10T19:10:01.462-07:002010-07-10T19:10:01.462-07:00Bev - The reason I decided to get away was in fact...Bev - The reason I decided to get away was in fact to gain some distance from issues at hand and hopefully to be able to get some new perspective. I think all of us here need a change of pace - it'll do the boys good too, to stay with my friend and for us to have some time apart. Our apartment is small and we have been living so closely together for almost a year. They're good kids but still need some direction and supervision. I'm not comfortable just letting them stay home on their own. They need an adult around.<br /><br />I am also looking forward to the 4 hour drive time each way. It'll be a way to think and reflect uninterrupted.<br /><br />Anyway, thanks for your feedback and insight.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-19622414549294835322010-07-10T18:48:04.250-07:002010-07-10T18:48:04.250-07:00I agree that making some time for yourself and get...I agree that making some time for yourself and getting away for a break sounds like a good idea. Sometimes, when we're away from our normal home environment, we can see things more clearly and it helps us to sort out certain problems. My husband and I used to find that happened when we came to Nova Scotia for a couple of weeks each summer. We would try to relax and have fun, but we also used the time away to try to make plans for our future when we returned home after. I still find a great deal of value in putting some distance between myself and my problems so that I can think more clearly.<br />How do your boys feel about you going away for a few days? Do you discuss the logistics of going away with them to see if they can come up with ideas for how best to make that possible? They're getting to an age where they should be able to assist you in making time for yourself.bevhttp://magickcanoe.com/blog11noreply@blogger.com