tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post2750032680926536379..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: Peeking Into HousesWidow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-43848739427166865762010-10-29T21:11:44.588-07:002010-10-29T21:11:44.588-07:00Jeanne - I know everyone faces their share of issu...Jeanne - I know everyone faces their share of issues/problems but I tell you widowhood has to be up there as one of the hardest, at least in my opinion and experience. Those homes and the people I see in them look pretty happy, cozy, warm and secure - whether that is just an image or not, seeing what they seem to have while I'm struggling, alone and lonely is still painful.<br /><br />Last year on New Year's Eve, a bunch of us were on line together and it really helped us get through that time. Maybe it is something to consider with the holidays coming up. Maybe we can come up with ways to make our holidays easier and more bearable and share them?<br /><br />The first year anniversary of my husband's death was something I wanted over as quickly as possible - I just wanted to be able to have it behind me. I am thinking of all of you having to face this milestone and praying for you to feel some peace and comfort.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-34719909046650389262010-10-29T19:02:15.582-07:002010-10-29T19:02:15.582-07:00When I was a young girl, I loved looking into peop...When I was a young girl, I loved looking into people's homes while my parents were driving the car. I like seeing how pretty and peaceful their houses look. It's funny as you get older, you realize that may not be the case. We all have our problems to deal with, and the comfortable, warm houses may not be what they seem.<br />I too am dreading this month coming up. It is the one year anniversary of my husband's death as well. I would like to pray along with you that we all make it through these holidays intact. It is very lonely, and I wish I could share my life with him once again. I see woman with their husbands, and think how lucky they are. I think of last year, and this time was so hard, but I am glad that I got to spend as much time as I could with my husband. I just miss him so much!!Jeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01897992155359266363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-7475222791124822102010-10-28T09:40:47.177-07:002010-10-28T09:40:47.177-07:00Boo - I'm with you. But I'm also at a poi...Boo - I'm with you. But I'm also at a point where I'm trying to do things to brighten up my home, especially in winter, so it is less sad to me coming home alone. <br /><br />A - Just forget the drivel about looking to the future and focus on doing your best to simply get through the upcoming days. People tell us to face the future before we have even faced one of the hardest parts of our grief, the one year mark. I'll be thinking of you - please share the date your husband went on support if you are comfortable with that - I'd like to pray for you that day.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-23822132338657987172010-10-28T05:08:48.942-07:002010-10-28T05:08:48.942-07:00It's me again, I am coming up on the one year ...It's me again, I am coming up on the one year anniversary for the day my husband went on a respirator, 48 days later he died. I am trying so hard to just make it through the holidays. This week is hitting me like a ton of bricks. I try to keep moving forward, look to the future all that rot but I cannot step out of the past.<br /><br />I know my husband would not want me to so sad. He would want me to live my life and to be happy. I do try to stay busy with freinds and family but it is just so lonely. You do all the things you always did ...but aloneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-11363708971444117762010-10-27T15:19:31.807-07:002010-10-27T15:19:31.807-07:00as winter approaches, I peek into living rooms som...as winter approaches, I peek into living rooms sometimes as I walk or drive past neighbourhoods ... and I wish, oh how I wish.<br /><br />I hate returning to a cold dark empty house (apart from my dogs of course) ...Boohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695496303699631884noreply@blogger.com