tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post2571525037083810610..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: The Spirit of LoveWidow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-70525984587090486992010-09-13T10:49:04.842-07:002010-09-13T10:49:04.842-07:00Julie - It was a mention to you and I have to say,...Julie - It was a mention to you and I have to say, that your comments to me are usually very inspiring and lead me to some self-insight I didn't have before. Anyway, I too used to take more time on the appearance aspect of my makeup and clothing but that has slipped with me doing all that work with the storage sheds. I'd spend so much time there and be so dirty but still have to run out to the store. It got to the point where I didn't really care how I looked out in public. But what I've realized is that the better I look, and the more time I spend on my appearance, the higher my mood is so it is worth the effort.<br /><br />We just all have to do the best we can and not beat up on ourselves for the times when we don't have as much energy to be stronger.<br /><br />Thelma - Thank you for your comment. I truly believe that all of us need to be kinder and more nurturing to ourselves and that we forget this in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives.<br /><br />Jude - What a sweet saying! I will keep these words in my mind - short, simple and easy to remember.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-13405850351770436422010-09-13T07:15:08.626-07:002010-09-13T07:15:08.626-07:00Seeds sown with love bloom more brightly.Seeds sown with love bloom more brightly.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-37828330825895282912010-09-12T19:13:12.594-07:002010-09-12T19:13:12.594-07:00Is that me, wow thanks for the mention!!!!
I have...Is that me, wow thanks for the mention!!!!<br /><br />I have to think of the self-nurture thing more myself as I think it has slipped a bit lately. I have small rituals that I do that reminds me that I am worthwhile. Like, I decided that I am not going out in public unless I have done my hair and makeup. This reminds me that I am worth the effort, and to put my best face to the world at all times. When I go to events with the children, I dress to impress, not for others but again to put value on myself. <br />I have been reminding my children recently that they are going to have 'fabulous' lives, and as their mother I have a role to model that behaviour and expectation.<br />Recently though I have been slack and have looked in the mirror at work and realised I came to work without makeup. That's probably a symptom of my depression, so I am making an effort to not let that slip.<br />Anyway, that is quite a rant, and I'm not sure it is helpful. Just a reminder that each action we take is important and small things can make a difference to the way we feel.<br /><br />Love as always!<br />JulieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-65479950413103150812010-09-12T16:47:37.411-07:002010-09-12T16:47:37.411-07:00I think your comment about self-nurturing is so im...I think your comment about self-nurturing is so important. No matter how you choose to, I hope you do something for yourself each day. 9/11 is a wonderful time to think about being good to ourselves and others and sending love into the world. Take care,<br />Thelma Z<br />www.widowsphere.blogspot.comthelmazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09819557846762852247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-58123058516728418912010-09-11T21:19:22.476-07:002010-09-11T21:19:22.476-07:00Thanks Dan, as always.Thanks Dan, as always.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-84109901385462490242010-09-11T20:14:44.198-07:002010-09-11T20:14:44.198-07:00This was a really nice read. Bitterness is so eas...This was a really nice read. Bitterness is so easy to come by when others in fact do have better/easier lives. I think we can't help but feel the bitterness coming to the surface. I suppose it can be used as our self reminder to nurture that part of us that feels hurt or alone.<br /><br />Good writing.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02218009891182171803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-54617995706489627652010-09-11T14:27:44.696-07:002010-09-11T14:27:44.696-07:00ARB - Thought it was a good message for us all to ...ARB - Thought it was a good message for us all to be reminded of today of all days. And no, I don't think you sounded preachy at all. I liked the way you put it of acceptance/forgiveness = loving yourself more = loving life more.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-40484908619404666072010-09-11T14:02:53.937-07:002010-09-11T14:02:53.937-07:00I think this is a very wise post. I know when I fe...I think this is a very wise post. I know when I feel envy or resentment of others around me, I try to remember that we are all human, all frail. We may have different life circumstances, but when you feel negative thoughts burbling up, if you try to accept and forgive and love instead, you will love yourself more, you will love life more. (Wow, do I sound preachy! Still, seriously, it is a simple lesson but one worth reflecting on periodically and reminding yourself about a hundred times a day! I often forget....so thanks for the reminder!) --ARBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com