tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post2249042930335132920..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: Staying In As The Snow FallsWidow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-72531117097999167982010-01-08T04:33:08.016-08:002010-01-08T04:33:08.016-08:00Boo - It is indeed a lesson that keeps coming up o...Boo - It is indeed a lesson that keeps coming up over and over again. Too bad you do not have Sloppy Joe mix!<br /><br />Jenny - Yes, I am less stressed now that a decision was reached in regard to the move. And trying to go forward in a stronger, more optimistic way.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-29901962438063232822010-01-07T17:42:36.382-08:002010-01-07T17:42:36.382-08:00You seem so much more at peace than you have in re...You seem so much more at peace than you have in recent weeks. That makes me smile, and your banana bread recipe sounds like my kind of baking!! :)<br /><br />Jenny S.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-8203775544054425072010-01-07T16:29:04.132-08:002010-01-07T16:29:04.132-08:00there's a song by Joe Cocker called, "The...there's a song by Joe Cocker called, "The Simple Things" and it is beautiful ... and completely is about what you have posted here. If there is one thing that we learn through this awful pain and loss, it is that.<br /><br />thx 4 sharing recipes, one day, I may attempt them, except can't buy sloppy joe mix in the UK :-(Boohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695496303699631884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-78729694842926347502010-01-07T14:08:25.942-08:002010-01-07T14:08:25.942-08:00Kelly - I think Sam would be transferred locally b...Kelly - I think Sam would be transferred locally but you never know. His current job is now listed as an open one to be filled but no one has spoken to him yet!<br /><br />I hope you make the banana bread. It really gave me a lift and it is sooooooooo easy. Well worth the effort.<br /><br />And I'm truly glad for you that the money was restored in your paycheck and that you have some good news about the taxes!!! I am not even thinking about taxes yet - yuck!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-13023743253990326902010-01-07T13:42:45.134-08:002010-01-07T13:42:45.134-08:00Sam might get moved again??? That's crazy!! An...Sam might get moved again??? That's crazy!! Any idea where? Possibly back by you? Wouldn't that be nice!!<br /><br />The banana bread sounds fabulous. I wish I had the energy to make it. Maybe this weekend. This week has been insanely crazy. Finally got my paycheck today and the missing funds from last pay period are finally in it!! With any luck there will be enough left over now for food and gas until the next one. Aiy yai! <br /><br />On a positive note, I tentatively did my taxes and was actually surprised to find out I will be getting money back! Since last year was the last year I could claim my daughter and the boys go to their Mom, I thought for sure I'd get about twenty bucks back but was pleasantly surprised. So that is something to look forward to!!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08967278323581039367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-369586905938921842010-01-07T12:02:51.223-08:002010-01-07T12:02:51.223-08:00Jude - I'm not so sure it is creativity as muc...Jude - I'm not so sure it is creativity as much as trying to make do and come up with ways to use what I have!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-52236857531854555332010-01-07T12:00:22.764-08:002010-01-07T12:00:22.764-08:00You are so creative--I would never have thought of...You are so creative--I would never have thought of using cake mix for banana bread!Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-22565428678261411332010-01-07T11:15:47.057-08:002010-01-07T11:15:47.057-08:00Dan - Please let me know if you end up baking the ...Dan - Please let me know if you end up baking the bread and how it turns out!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-39359648851873858582010-01-07T11:15:02.814-08:002010-01-07T11:15:02.814-08:00wNs - You never need to apologize for not reading ...wNs - You never need to apologize for not reading or commenting. I know what is upcoming for you. The decision to stay put was one that was mutually made and based on numerous factors: <br /><br />1. $4,000.00 penalty owed for breaking the lease on my apt.<br />2. The academic problems of transferring the boys mid-year from a school operating on a semester system to one operating on a trimester one. It was not a good fit.<br />3. The boys had absolutely no warning about the move and therefore, no real time to plan for it or process their feelings about it.<br />4. Our apt. was never even fully unpacked from Sept. and the new move seemed so haphazard and fly-by-the-seat of our pants.<br />5. We had not figured out how to pay for moving my belongings out of the apt. The costs were very prohibitive even for just putting them into storage here ($1,200.00).<br />6. The two high schools had trouble coordinating the move because of being off for a week at Thanksgiving and then two weeks at Christmas.<br />7. I had concerns about making such a drastic physical move when Sam had been at his new job only one month. What if it didn't work out or he was transferred? If so, we'd be stuck at the new location with our belongings in storage with no possible means to come back if we needed to.<br />8. Just today Sam was told that he might be transferred to another location!<br />9. It was just too much for me to handle at one time, especially after selling and moving so recently from my home. Sam and I rented his new home after only having 4 hours time to look at available rentals to begin with. Everything was too rushed and unsettled and I need more stability and predictability in order to make decisions and feel comfortable.<br />10. Sam and I are not married. If we were, there is more of an obligation for spouses to move together. But here at home there are a number of families at the high school where the mom has stayed here so the kid(s) can finish while the dad moved out-of-state for a job.<br /><br />Sam and I agreed to table further discussions and a decision about moving until the end-of-the-school year. We would then have time to work out arrangements for my oldest to stay with a friend for his senior year. Sam still has a home in the area as well (about an hour away from me here) so it not as though all his ties have been physically broken.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-35235034479180486172010-01-07T11:08:18.840-08:002010-01-07T11:08:18.840-08:00Just reading about the banana bread has me imagini...Just reading about the banana bread has me imagining it's sweet smell. I'm going to buy the ingredients and try it myself. <br /><br />I'm glad that you are feeling a bit more optimistic, and that the cooking and baking has brought back that sense of home. I still don't cook too much, and the kids really miss it. In fact, my daughter is home with lots of time on her hands, maybe she can bake the bread!<br /><br />Take care.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02218009891182171803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-26433200913882336412010-01-07T10:23:49.517-08:002010-01-07T10:23:49.517-08:00i've been submerging myself in work but i'...i've been submerging myself in work but i've tried to keep up. i must have a processing glitch that is keeping me from following.<br /><br />you have moved your things back out of Sam's place and are back to your apartment with bi-monthly visits scheduled that you have to drive to to be with him? your sons demands won out after their promises to flunk their new school? and Sam is going to wait for you for the next few years?<br /><br />he is one in a million. i hope he stays in your life even if it's only on the phone. you've wanted a man and he seems so selflessly vested in your life. i've never read where you've professed your great love for him or his love for you, only of his willingness to take you on and of your needing someone so you aren't alone. but there has to be love there, a strong love to wait for each other for the next few years, until your youngest son leaves for college. not many men would do that so there must be a great and deep love there.<br /><br />my fingers are crossed your sons finally settle down now that they have what they want. i hope you find a job so you all don't have to live in your car. i do remember that was a very real fear for you. you are in my thoughts.<br /><br />i'm sorry i've been so distracted. a couple of important days are coming up for me and my Dragon will be missed terribly. i find i'm just staggering through by keeping my head down and sewing. i promise to try to keep up better.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.com