tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post1862495399087057857..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: Finally, A Loss I'M Not Crying Over!Widow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-55938890708552321822009-12-16T08:23:59.903-08:002009-12-16T08:23:59.903-08:00The clarity that comes with great loss is one of t...The clarity that comes with great loss is one of the best gifts. You just can't sweat the small stuff anymore.<br /><br />Hopefully we won't need too many reminders to remain this insightful.<br /><br />I believe our children will be more thoughtful and resilient as adults as well. I hope that mine will value experiences over things. Experiences make memories and memories last forever.<br /><br />Keep up the good fight-<br /><br />IreneIrene McGoldrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17788960402697541910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-26049205937598229822009-12-14T06:48:10.556-08:002009-12-14T06:48:10.556-08:00wNs - I always know that your comments come from e...wNs - I always know that your comments come from experience and I so appreciate that you are willing to share them with me. Coach bags are something I have never figured out because I do not even think they look that good! My main focus and worry right now is on meeting the needs of the boys. Just getting them through HS (I can't even imagine college yet). Your Dragon was there for you and made sacrifices for your children. He is truly a hero in my eyes. When I compare him to men like your ex or Husband #2, he just blows them out of the water! He worked with you side by side to provide stability for the kids and to assist them through college. What a blessing - what a true gift of this man's spirit. His acts will resonate forever through you and your children.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-24592703878171267482009-12-13T10:44:18.313-08:002009-12-13T10:44:18.313-08:00i understand how hard it is to work retail and kee...i understand how hard it is to work retail and keep your perspective. i worked for Macy's during my divorce, first as a stocker for small appliances, then on the floor as a sales associate in handbags and accessories. to serve the women coming in and spending over $300 for a Coach bag was surreal to me. even when i was still married to the ex and had money, i never would have spent that much money at the grocery store without permission much less a purse.<br /><br />i understand your financial difficulties well having lived them for the last 7 years. my Dragon and i were hand-to-mouth every step of the way but at least my children had medical, college labs and such paid for, gas money, apartment rent, all their needs met. it was a loving sacrifice and one we never thought twice about. my children were safe and my Dragon always figured something out.<br /><br />and now as widows, we've all learned so hard lessons. not the least of which is that we can get by for a lot less.<br /><br />bless you and your family this holiday season. i hope happiness and better financial times, as well as this new love you're working for, return to you from now on and stays.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-2492584560115822292009-12-13T10:24:24.482-08:002009-12-13T10:24:24.482-08:00Thanks everyone for your kind words, thoughts, hug...Thanks everyone for your kind words, thoughts, hugs and well wishes. They mean a great deal, more than I can express.<br /><br />Boo - I unfortunately think that all of us on this road are going to be learning lessons, some of them harder than others. At least this one was a little bit easier to handle! <br /><br />Suzann - Love really is the only thing that matters. This belief is reflected in your blog too. I wish the rest of the world would catch up on getting this. It shouldn't have to take loss for this lesson to be learned.<br /><br />Debra - I always kind of felt like a fly on the wall observing customers and the employees and just seeing this retail environment with a different perspective. I did learn a lot - mostly how I don't want to be and what I do want to focus on. So all in all not a totally negative experience but one that I'm not going to miss.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-52255909883360517572009-12-13T09:10:01.690-08:002009-12-13T09:10:01.690-08:00I am sure your experience in the retail world was ...I am sure your experience in the retail world was an eye opening one. You see much bad behavior, and some good, especially at this time of the year. It is so sad that management was so awful and very non-labor. I guess it shows you how the corporate ladder of that company operates. But you are right that is one area that is not sad to leave and now you can move forward. I hope that things continue to improve for you.<br />{hugs}<br />~DebraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-2129175584811541632009-12-13T09:04:14.959-08:002009-12-13T09:04:14.959-08:00It is remarkable that those of us who have experie...It is remarkable that those of us who have experienced this profound loss express this truth - we leave this world with only love....love the only thing that matters...you are in my thoughts.Suzannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00324352371488938537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-22267381810700958812009-12-13T07:06:39.763-08:002009-12-13T07:06:39.763-08:00It takes a better person to experience the hardshi...It takes a better person to experience the hardship and loss and heartbreak that you have, and to learn from it ... rather than let yourself become bitter.<br /><br />You are that person!<br /><br />xxBoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695496303699631884noreply@blogger.com