tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post153136473822351655..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: Fate, Timing, Circumstances, ChoicesWidow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-76024674904651205372009-07-03T11:32:30.133-07:002009-07-03T11:32:30.133-07:00I was touched by your Post--you are very introspec...I was touched by your Post--you are very introspective and now have the time to sort through all the feelings you've had.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-29521616952697652542009-07-02T17:49:18.981-07:002009-07-02T17:49:18.981-07:00I can't convey how much your thoughtful and ki...I can't convey how much your thoughtful and kind words always mean to me. My focus is to try and move through this current loss (our home)and finally gain some peace. Feeling guilty and ashamed bring nothing constructive to the situation.<br />I do know that I am a good, loyal, very kind, caring person. But I fear that people will only be judging me for having lost my home and having to move from a home into an apartment. They will not know all of the struggles I have faced. I will be viewed as a failure. <br />Now I know that if I don't feel that way inside, I shouldn't care what others think. Just another demon to struggle with and come to terms with!<br />Thank you again for being out there and taking the time to care and reach out.Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-42372616147293814052009-07-02T17:15:48.268-07:002009-07-02T17:15:48.268-07:00From the perspective of someone looking in at your...From the perspective of someone looking in at your life from the outside, what you have done and coped with over the past five years and more is positively heroic. <br />Of course you have to put your boys first - you are their Mum. That's what you do.<br />Of course you have to look after your parents - what sort of person would you be if you didn't?<br />I hope this time of reflection will eventually lead you believe that the choices you made were the right ones. They tell me that you are a strong and loyal person who puts what is right before her own interests. That is a good person to be. You should nurture her and grow to like her. I do.<br /><br />J xxxJ-in-Waleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02390582364341730481noreply@blogger.com