tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post1102530496054007347..comments2024-03-06T03:23:51.904-08:00Comments on Surviving Middle-Aged Widowhood: The Time Is NowWidow in the Middlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-66766969016154597282010-01-25T07:39:07.699-08:002010-01-25T07:39:07.699-08:00Seventies Girl - Love how you call it shopping at ...Seventies Girl - Love how you call it shopping at your own house! I think staying here is the right decision. It is hard getting back on my feet financially for sure. But part of this too is sticking by the decision made and seeing it out in the meantime, not looking back.<br /><br />CCC - Thanks for the suggestion. The stuff from my folks is pretty much paperwork and the like. I don't have much of any real value. I donate a lot to Goodwill and resale shops. And do get a big tax deduction for that - way above the standard $200.00. <br /><br />Jude - I like your attitude about using the china and to find as much enjoyment in everyday little things as we can!<br /><br />Kelly - Don't feel rushed or obligated to get rid of any of Joe's things before you are ready. It took me five years to even start considering it and only then because I was forced to because of moving. But I did feel good about donating a lot of my husband's nice clothing because I knew they would be used and appreciated by others. Still kept a lot of clothes for the boys and me for keepsakes. <br /><br />I think a big problem is having a lack of time and/or energy to sort through items. It really becomes another job to add to our already overflowing to-do lists. I got a big laugh out of your comment that you have plenty of your own things to part company with!Widow in the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598249263166943162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-80240994816731081992010-01-24T19:44:06.065-08:002010-01-24T19:44:06.065-08:00I love that you are finding lost treasures that yo...I love that you are finding lost treasures that you can now use and share. I also like the ebay idea. I am sure many of have so many items we no longer use or need that could earn some extra cash. It's just so hard going through the process of sorting and deciding. I mean, Joe's clothes are still sitting in the closet (AFTER 2 moves!). At least I use his shirts for sleeping so they are useful. I'm not ready to part with any of his things, but I'll bet i have plenty of my own I could stand to part company with!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08967278323581039367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-6725243318338449042010-01-24T09:47:18.835-08:002010-01-24T09:47:18.835-08:00I love that you are "using" the things y...I love that you are "using" the things you found and YES, by ALL means get out Grandma's china and display it or use it...enjoy it. That is something that should not be stored. Life is short--find enjoyment in what ever way you can.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-14625545617390121152010-01-23T20:10:32.959-08:002010-01-23T20:10:32.959-08:00Hi -- you may have already thought of this, but ha...Hi -- you may have already thought of this, but have you considered selling some of your stuff on eBay? Not the things that have strong sentimental or family value (like your grandmother's china), but maybe some other things? You could sell the items to people who will use them (and get them out of your space!), and also make a little money at the same time. Just a thought ... maybe you could talk to someone you know who's done some eBay auctions, to find out the best way to get started? You'd be surprised by what people will buy and sell online! :-)CCCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-738048378012755564.post-62294777275750974762010-01-23T17:43:28.231-08:002010-01-23T17:43:28.231-08:00This is such an upbeat post! I call what you'...This is such an upbeat post! I call what you're doing "Shopping in My Own House". I, too, have a gleeful feeling when I use up the last bit of something. You sound positive and well, to me a clear sign you have made the right decision for you this month. Well done! <br />Seventies GirlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com